Students Feel Disconnected when Learning Is Transactional, Not Relational

Students Feel Disconnected when Learning Is Transactional, Not Relational

Walk into almost any school today and you will hear educators focused on achievement gaps and learning loss. There’s another gap shaping student outcomes that receives far less attention — it’s what I call the belonging gap, writes Lynna Martinez-Khalilian, chief academic officer at Fusion Academy, in an eSchool News essay.

The belonging gap emerges when students experience school as a place where they’re not fully known, seen, or valued for who they are. Learning becomes transactional rather than relational. Students complete the work and follow directions, but they rarely ask questions, take risks, or connect meaningfully with their learning or the people around them.

This disconnect is more common than many realize. According to Gallup’s national student engagement research, only about half of U.S. students report feeling engaged in school and engagement drops sharply as students get older.

Also, research from the CDC on school connectedness shows that students who feel a sense of belonging experience significantly better outcomes.

When students feel known and valued, the conditions for learning become fertile. Curiosity grows. Confidence takes root. Persistence follows.

Schools that cultivate belonging tend to share these common practices:

  • Educators take time to understand students’ strengths, interests, and learning needs–creating a foundation of trust that supports engagement. This can be as simple as starting class with a brief check-in, referencing a student’s interests in a lesson, or following up on something a student shared the day before.
  • Students are invited into the learning process. They have input in how they learn, opportunities to express themselves, and space to share what matters to them. This might look like offering a choice in how students demonstrate understanding, inviting them to co-create goals, or pausing to ask, “What would help you learn this best?”
  • Schools intentionally highlight what students do well, helping students build confidence and identity. This can be naming a student’s progress out loud, showcasing different types of strengths in the classroom, or helping students connect their interests to academic work.

 

These practices send a powerful message: You belong here–and we will help you grow from that starting point.

Leaders can begin by asking:

  • Do our educators have the tools, time, and support they need to intentionally create belonging in their classrooms?
  • Which students feel connected–and which students may feel invisible?
  • How flexible are our learning structures?
  • Are we valuing diverse forms of intelligence and growth?

When belonging becomes a strategic priority, students take more academic risks, teachers build deeper connections, and schools see gains in engagement, persistence and achievement.

eSchool News

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